"A Decision I Will Never Regret" - Why Danniele Placed 3 Children for Adoption

Danniele is a brave birth mother who chose adoption for three of her children to give them a life full of love and opportunities. If you feel inspired by her story, contact us today or call 1-800-ADOPTION to get free information about the adoption process. 

I am 25 years old, and I have given three of our children to a very special couple whom we originally met through an agency. We became very close during the very first meeting with them in person. We also spoke to them on the phone several times prior to the birth. We just knew we were making a very hard decision but a decision I will never regret.

I gave birth to their baby girl in May of 2000. They had been through so much before we met them; I knew I had to do this for them. They were such a great couple with so much love for each other and so much more love to give to our child. They were so happy to see their new baby girl. I was so happy to be the one to start their family, yet I felt so empty inside and especially when I went home.

For two weeks, I cried everywhere — in the stores, in the car, at home, especially at night. I always woke up to check on someone who was so many states away with her new mommy and daddy. The love of my life helped me more than anything to be strong for our children and us. He took it hard also, but he wanted to be strong for me. Well, we got through with the adoptive family right there for us, any time of the day or night.

I became pregnant again in 2001. I wasn't sure what we were going to do. We were just beginning to do OK with our already large family. I let the adoptive mother know I was expecting. She was excited for us, but she also let me know they would be there if we decided on adoption. My boyfriend and I talked about our options, and we decided to give the same couple another baby. They were so surprised and so ecstatic over our decision. I gave birth to another beautiful baby girl, all for them to love. We became so close, I started calling her my mom. She has been there for me like a real mother, to talk, to listen, or just be there any way she could, anytime or place. We always discuss personal things — troubles, the kids, anything at all.

While I grew up, I never had my mother as my mother. I saw her sometimes, but she was more of a friend or something. I lived with my father; after being with every [family] member, I finally stayed with my dad. We had it rough; pretty soon, my brothers had to come live with us, so I became mom and sis to them. My dad drank a lot and worked a lot, so we did whatever we wanted to, basically. We got into lots of trouble. At the age of 12, I went to a juvenile place for a minute. I ran away at 16 with the man I'm still with; almost 9 years now we've been together. I was lost when I met him, and he made me a better person and made me a mother and showed me what love is.

The couple we gave our children to are very grateful, but I'm so grateful to them because they gave me a second chance to have a family and showed me what families are.

I became pregnant again in 2002. I at first thought we could give this one up, but four months into the pregnancy I began having dreams. I heard my child crying, and I couldn't touch or find him; he was out of my reach. I told L, the other mother, "I think we are going to keep this baby — something just told me this baby is for you guys, so love him and keep him." I did give birth to a baby boy. He was so precious. We were so glad we decided to keep him in our home with us. They were so happy for us and bought our new baby all kinds of gifts and got us a car seat/stroller all in one set for his arrival. They are just so great.

We got even closer. We now had our three kids and they had two girls. I became pregnant again in 2003, and they let us know they were still there for any decision and they would love to have another baby. So, we discussed our options. We did not want to overwhelm them with so many kids at once, but she assured me she was ready and would be delighted to have another baby.

We had another baby girl in February 2004. This time, she arrived early; they got a midnight call from us saying this was it — we had to go to the hospital! My due date was the 12th of February. We were due to leave for their state on the 2nd, but she arrived on the 1st, so all the plans were a mess. They had to take a flight and come meet their baby girl. They came here, spent a few days in our state and spent every day with us while they were there.

So, now they have three girls who call us by our names, but [the parents] don't keep anything from them; they give information as they ask. The oldest does know she grew in my belly. They know our children and us very well. They are always going to know they have two sets of parents who love them very much.

This past August, they came down and we were invited to go to Disney. All the kids and all of us had such a great time together. They are far away, but they all stay close in our hearts every day. We are so glad it turned out so great; they are very much feeling the parent thing, and they do such a great job.

Thank you for reading my story.

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