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"It is Not Hard to Know What's Best" - How Rosa Overcame Grief to Choose Adoption

Rosa is a brave birth mother who chose adoption to give her daughter a life full of love and opportunities. If you feel inspired by her story, contact us today to learn more about adoption and what it can mean for you. Call 1-800-ADOPTION now to get free information about the adoption process.

Well, first of all, I would love to start by introducing myself. My name is Rosa, but I’m known by Rose. This is my adoption story and how it all brought me here.

I was a normal teenage girl in high school with honor classes. It all crashed down my junior year when I decided to drop out. My reasons may sound dumb, but they’re pretty logical to me. I dropped out after losing my baby brother October 28, 2014 — a date I will never forget. I wasn’t myself after that ever again. So, when I dropped out, I decided to join an outdoor soccer team, where I met Jhon, winter of 2014.

In September of 2015, we found out we were going to be parents for the first time. It was the greatest news any couple can expect. My due date was May 28, 2016. I ended up having my previous boy a month early on April 19, 2016. We were the happiest parents ever. Everything was perfect.

In November, it all came crashing down — my dreams and the love of my life. Early in the morning, I received from Jhonny’s mom a call telling me he had just had a car accident and had died. My heart broke into a million pieces. I went through the biggest depression of my life. I had just lost my son’s father. I was on depression meds until January, when I came to find out I was pregnant again.

It was the middle of January. I had suicidal thoughts, so I went to the ER and left my 1-year-old with my sister. As soon as I got there, they ran some blood labs, and that’s when they told me I was four months pregnant. That made me even more depressed because Jhon wasn’t here anymore.

I didn’t have emotional, financial, or physical support to have a second baby. A nurse talked to me about American Adoptions. It was the hardest decision in my life. But, I couldn’t give this baby what she deserves, and I knew for sure she was going to a loving home.

My heart hurts, but it was my best choice. I will never forget my baby girl ever. It is not hard to know what is best; it is just hard to overcome all of the emotions involved.

Amelia: June 24, 2018

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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While not every woman who chooses adoption is a young mother, many are. Through adoption, many young women have found an ability to give their babies the best life possible, while finding the opportunity to realize their own dreams, as well. Call American Adoptions today at 1-800-ADOPTION.

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