Will My Child Resent Me for Choosing Adoption?

As a birth mother considering adoption, one of the fears you might have is “Will my child resent me for choosing adoption?”

The truth is, many birth mothers have walked this path before you, and their experiences show that choosing adoption can lead to a brighter future for both you and your child.

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Through real-life testimonials, you’ll see how birth mothers like Caitlin, Michelle and Bobbi found peace in their decision, knowing their children are thriving with opportunities they wouldn’t have had otherwise.

Understanding the Fear: Will My Child Resent Me For Choosing Adoption?

It’s natural to wonder how your child will feel about your decision as they grow older. The fear of resentment can weigh heavily on your heart, making you question whether you’re making the right choice.

However, adoption is a loving decision made with your child’s best interests in mind. With the right support and open communication, many birth mothers find peace and even joy in their choice, as do their children. Below are three stories from real birth mothers who’ve been in your shoes.

Michelle’s Story: A Journey of Love and Understanding

Michelle’s story shows the power of open adoption and the strong bonds it can create. She knew that parenting would have been impossible at that point in her life and never regrets choosing adoption. Even though she feared that her son Ryan might one day harbor negative feelings towards her, through regular visits and open communication, they have built a beautiful relationship.

“I have kept in touch with the family and they have kept their promise to send pictures and letters with updates of all the activities he is involved in. Over the years I have been able to see all the wonderful things he has been able to do.” Michelle, birth mother said.

“He plays basketball, baseball, soccer and even has tried wrestling. He also had had the opportunity to go on a jet ski and go on the boat at his parent’s lake house. He has all these opportunities because of adoption.”

Bobbi’s Testimonial: Trusting Your Decision

Bobbi’s journey was filled with external pressures and doubts, but she ultimately trusted her instincts and doesn’t regret choosing adoption for her son. Despite facing criticism, Bobbi remained committed to her decision, focusing on what was best for both her and her child.

“A lot of people didn’t agree with my decision, but it was never up to them. I was working full time, going to school full-time, and doing odd jobs with my son in the backseat of the car. Adoption was the best decision for both of us because my son is thriving, and I got to finish college!” Bobbi, birth mother said.

“I love seeing my son happy. He understands his story quite well and has amazing parents and extended family. If you’re considering adoption, don’t let others sway your decision. Do what’s best for you and your child.”

Bobbi’s experience emphasizes the importance of making a decision based on your circumstances and what you believe will lead to a brighter future for your child.

Caitlin’s Story: Being a Cheerleader on the Sidelines

When Caitlin decided on adoption, she expected limited contact with her son’s adoptive family. Instead, she had the option to choose the level of communication she wanted to have with her baby before, during and after the process. She found not only the perfect adoptive family for her son but also a couple who became like family to her.

During her hospital stay, Caitlin was supported by Amanda and Matt, the adoptive parents, who were there for the entire birth process. Caitlin recalls how Amanda never left her side and even cut the umbilical cord at Caitlin’s invitation. After the placement, while waiting for ICPC clearance, Caitlin and her family bonded further with Amanda and Matt through family gatherings.

“Knowing that I can be around and be there — I don’t even know how to put it into words… I’m like a cheerleader on the sideline, and that’s more than I could have asked for,” Caitlin says of her open adoption relationship.

“He gets this family who can take care of him and do everything I couldn’t, but he can also know that I didn’t just give him away. I had a purpose for him, and it was meant to be.”