Robin and Jake and FamilyA Lesson in Perseverance

Adoptive couple Robin and Jake wanted to further expand their family but faced secondary infertility after having two biological children. That’s where the adoption journey began for this former family of four—Robin, her husband Jake and their two children Alexis and Jalen, now 13 and 11.

The couple received an adoption opportunity quickly and welcomed son Joshua, now 2, into their lives. They also developed a deep and lasting relationship with Joshua’s birth family. Robin even took Joshua to visit his birth family last year.

Robin, who once worried that she’d feel different toward an adopted child, says, “I forget that he’s adopted. I swear I do. Someone asked me, what if you don’t love him the same or what if it feels different? And honestly, I didn’t know, but I was trusting. I swear, though, I forget that I didn’t actually push him out.”

Looking back, Robin is especially grateful for the life lessons she learned from infertility and adoption and shares her story at every opportunity.

“It’s taught me that if one thing in your life doesn’t work out, don’t give up,” Robin says. “I really thought I would be able to have my babies biologically and everything would go as planned. But it’s just an amazing lesson to even teach my kids that everything is not going to work out. You’re going to have some challenges in life and things aren’t fair at the time. But just hold on… it’s like my testimonial to people.”

To read the rest of Jake, Robin, Alexis, Jalen and Joshua’s adoption story or hear about their special monthly tradition with Joshua’s birth mom, visit their testimonial on our website.