March 2nd is Read Across America Day!
Experts agree that you should tell your children the story of their adoption early and often. Reading these 12 books to your child can be the perfect way to incorporate domestic, international, transracial, or foster care adoption as a part of their daily life, and can give them characters to relate to in a positive way.
Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born – Jamie Lee Curtis
A little girl asks her parents to retell the story of her adoption and the night she was born.
“Tell me again about the night I was born… Tell me again how you would adopt me and be my parents… Tell me again about the first time you held me in your arms…”
The Mulberry Bird: An Adoption Story – Anne Braff Brodzinsky
A Mother Bird is unable to care for her baby, so she creates an adoption plan to provide him with the future she wants him to have.
This classic picture book helps explain the difficult choice that birth mothers face and how families can be united through adoption out of these circumstances.
Surrounded By Love – An Open Adoption Story – Allison Olson
This modern take on the “where did you come from” adoption book celebrates open adoption.
Through words and illustrations, the characters express the immense amount of love that everyone involved in the process has for the adoptee.
I Don’t Have Your Eyes – Carrie A. Kitze
This picture book reminds children that while families may not always look alike, our physical differences make us unique, and the bonds of family are what matter most.
“I don’t have your eyes… but I have your way of looking at things… I don’t look like you on the outside… but I look inside, and in our hearts, we are the same.”
A Mama for Owen – Marion Dane Bauer
When Owen the baby hippo’s mama is lost in a tragic tsunami, he becomes best friends with Mzee the tortoise, who becomes his new “mama.” A new family begins after a painful loss.
Elliot – Julie Pearson
A young rabbit in the foster care system goes through difficult and complex emotions, even though he knows his foster families love him very much. A social worker comes to help Elliot understand that he’ll never be able to go back to his old home and helps his adoptive parents to understand what Elliot has been through.
We Belong Together: A Book About Adoption and Families – Todd Parr
“There are lots of different ways to make a family. It just takes love. Share your home, and share your heart.”
This sweet little picture book illustrates all the reasons why your family belongs together through simple language and bright colors, but it still expresses an important reminder to adoptees and their parents.
My Family is Forever – Nancy Carlson
A young Asian adoptee tells the story of her family’s international adoption journey and the differences that can exist within a family. This illustrated book reminds readers that families can be created through birth or through adoption; families become families through lots of different ways.
Pablo’s Tree – Pat Mora
Every year since Pablo’s adoption at birth, his Abuelito decorates a special tree for Pablo’s birthday. “Pablo’s Tree” is a bilingual story that shows just how many loving relationships can be built through adoption within a family.
Home at Last – Vera B. Williams
When Lester is adopted by his new daddies and settles into his new home with the family dog, he’s happy and loved. But at night, his adoption worries and fears creep up, and Lester can’t sleep. Even though his daddies love him, Lester still gets anxious at night due to his past experiences.
With the help of his adoptive family (and especially his dog), Lester finally feels at home.
The Red Thread: An Adoption Fairy Tale – Grace Lin
Based on the Chinese proverb that “an invisible, unbreakable red thread connects all who are destined to be together,” The Red Thread tells the tale of a Caucasian King and Queen who feel pain in their hearts from something that is missing. The couple is able to follow the red thread wrapped around each of their hearts across the ocean to a distant land, where they find their Asian baby girl waiting for them at the other end.
Lucy’s Family Tree – Karen Halvorsen Schreck
Most children are tasked with creating a family tree for school at some point. This poses a frustrating dilemma for adoptees whose family trees don’t always fit the typical format. The main character of this book, an adoptee named Lucy, also feels the same anxiety that this assignment brings.
But Lucy finds that most peoples’ family trees don’t fit into just one standard type and that family trees should celebrate all different kinds of families: birth families, adoptive families, and everything in between.
I Wished for You – Marianne R. Richmond
“’Mama,’ said Barley. ‘Tell me again how I’m your wish come true.’”
A Mama bear and her little cub talk about his adoption story, the questions that adopted children have, and how they became a family.
This is awesome! Wish there had been books like this when I was adopted!
We’ve searched long and hard for books about adopted children that show adoptive families but just portray them going about their daily lives and don’t focus on the adoption aspect itself (though I also think books that do focus on adoption are necessary as well). Our most recent favorite is Saturday is Swimming Day (https://beyondthesnowyday.blogspot.com/2018/10/saturday-is-swimming-day-by-hyewon-yum.html). These can be hard to find though!
This is a really solid list, thank you! Another one I’d add is Wild About You for a younger child. Our feelings about it are summed up here: https://beyondthesnowyday.blogspot.com/2019/01/wild-about-you-by-judy-sierra.html. It’s hard to find books that don’t focus on the parents’ experiences.
Thank you for supporting adoption! Here’s another to add to the list, a picture book written by an adopted child.
https://www.bethroperstewart.com/one-thing-missing
Are there any books out there about kids with full blood brothers or sisters that were put up for adoption?
Hi, Matt — We’re unaware of any books that tackle this specific situation, but “Sam’s Sister” may be a good choice. It’s a children’s book about a five-year-old whose mother plans to place her younger sister in an open adoption: https://www.amazon.com/Sams-Sister-Juliet-C-Bond/dp/0944934307
This is an amazing list of resources. Any chance there are any books you are aware of that a child is adopted by a family member? We may not have prayed for a baby but we are so blessed that he is able to be with our family and know where he came from. thanks for your insight.
Hi, Traci — This list might be a good place to start in regards to children’s books about kinship adoption: https://www.kidsmatterinc.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/Foster-Care-Adoption-Kinship-Book-List.pdf
One book that comes to mind is Our Gracie Aunt by Jacqueline Woodson. It’s a lovely book. Here is a summary: “When a brother and sister are taken to stay with their mother’s sister because their mother neglects them, they wonder if they will see their mother again.”
Are there any books for adoptive parents and children dealing with name changing?
Hi, Beth — While this book is not adoption-related, it does deal with a child trying to find their “true” name: https://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Name-Store/dp/1628736089 You might also reach out to your adoption social worker for more resources on this topic.
Hello,
Are there any books that might be helpful for an adopted only child 4 year old that is becoming an older sibling through adoption this year? Thanks!
Hi, Peter — Here are some books that may be what you’re looking for: https://creatingafamily.org/adoption/adoptionsuggestedbooks/books-help-prepare-children-adoption-sibling/
Hi, is there a book about the birth mother dying and her child being adopted?
Hello,
Are you aware of any books that talk about an adopted child who has biological siblings elsewhere? Lucy’s Family Tree looks promising but any others?
Hello all. My wife and I adopted our now 5-year old daughter Sydney at birth. In seeking the ideal way to tell her the story of her adoption and introduce the concept of adoption at an early age, I decided to write a children’s book entitled “Sydney & Ziggy – because of love”. It was designated by Amazon as the “#1 New Release for Children’s adoption books” the week of its release. I would greatly appreciate your support in purchasing your copy and I’m looking forward to hearing your feedback in the reviews section. https://www.amazon.com/Sydney-Ziggy-because-L-C-Walters/dp/B08KSN89X9
Heart Picked: Elizabeth’s Adoption Tale is another great book to add to this list. http://www.heartpickedwithlove.com. This book features an African American adoptive family and talks about the love of family when physical characteristics may not be the same. Check it out!
Hello! I am publishing a book about an adopted greyhound that I really think speaks to all of the changes, unknowns and anxieties surrounding the adoption process. Please let me know if you would be interested in receiving a copy!
I absolutely would ! My niece is with us and we will soon be adopting her. She is 3 . I am looking for a book I can read to her. We read every night before bed .
Thanks,
Tina
Tinalin0715@yahoo.com
Tina,
I can’t believe I never received this notification!! If you’re still interested, please visit my website for more info 🙂 the book is available through multiple retailers, but if you want a personalized copy, we can talk about that too!
http://www.samanthawulff.com
Hello, Crochet Friends! is a new book actually told from a real adoptee’s point of view. https://beyondthesnowyday.blogspot.com/2021/06/hello-crochet-friends-by-jonah-and.html
My soon-to-be 8-year-old son has started to say he is different or a “misfit” for being adopted. Any good recommendations for age-appropriate books to develop these new big feelings.
Hi there Pamela,
I would really appreciate if you took a look at my book, “Django the Greyhound Gets Adopted.” I’ve received excellent feedback from my local community and those online. If you do get it for your son, please let me know what you think! ❤️
Django the Greyhound: Gets Adopted! https://www.amazon.com/dp/1087942144/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_navT_g_MAZACQMSBR01W05SQX70
I am looking for a book for my adopted child (10 yrs old) to introduce the fact her birth parents have a child – her bio-brother.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Hi Darlene,
I would really appreciate if you took a look at my book, “Django the Greyhound Gets Adopted.” I’ve spoken with multiple families of adoption and they say this truly resonates ❤️
Django the Greyhound: Gets Adopted! https://www.amazon.com/dp/1087942144/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_navT_g_MAZACQMSBR01W05SQX70